The Enlightened Sex Manual: Sexual Skills for the Superior Lover

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The secret to enlightenment and great sex is revealed to be one and the same in this groundbreaking manual for adventurous lovers. David Deida was trained for decades in the art of spiritual and sexual awakening. Now he presents the ultimate collection of skills for opening to the physical, emotional, and spiritual rewards of intimate embrace. In paperback for the first time, The Enlightened Sex Manual teaches you how to transform simple "skin friction" into the depths and embodiment of ecstasy, how to develop sexual abilities as gifts of heart rapture and bodily surrender, how to achieve the principal types of orgasm-and all their varieties-and much more.

For men and women, singles and couples of every sexual orientation, The Enlightened Sex Manual provides a complete program for sustaining "whole-body recognition of love's light" in the wild play of sexuality.

Contents

Part One: Energy

Use your breath to arouse and relax your genitals
Restrain your nervous system
Use your tongue like a circuit breaker
Use your eyes to direct energy
Part Two: Orgasm

Bypass ejaculations for greater pleasure
Retrain the addiction to ejaculation
Curb fidgets
Good ejaculations liberate energy
Optimize ejaculations to maximize life's depth
Ejaculate when the body needs to
Understand the three types of women's orgasms
Enjoy clitoral orgasms
Delight in vaginal orgasms
Surrender in the bliss of cervical orgasms
Choose when to orgasm
Allow orgasmic variation
Part Three: Variations

Stimulate the sex paths
Bite, slap, and pinch to move sexual energy
Move energy through the lips, nipples, and genitals
Stimulate the anus
Do the feet
Thrust both deep and shallow
Connect the cervix and penis
Vibrate quickly to increase and smooth out energy
Relax your body and breath
Make love for at least forty-five minutes

Part Four: Sexual Energy Exercises

Breathe sexual energy in a circle
Breathe genital energy up
Breathe energy down the front
Seal your pelvic floor
Lock energy in your soft parts

Praise

"David Deida explains the heart and soul of women to men. As a woman, I've never felt so understood and validated. David's work is a key to helping men and women alike take their relationships one step further. Finally, a clear and brilliant guide to unraveling the mystery of relationships."
Marci Shimoff, Co-author of Chicken Soup for a Woman's Soul

"Being able to reach and live integrated sex, relationship, and transcendence is no easy task. It requires immense courage, wisdom, and above all, fearless loving. In Deida, all this gets included in one radical teaching. You'll learn how to open your heart and integrate the need to sleep with every attractive woman you see, deal appropriately with a woman's emotional chaos, give your gift to the word and lover, and finally transcend the whole lot by including it all."
Vijay Rana, The Watkins Review

"Deida brilliantly lays bare the hidden psychology of feminine and masculine and offers clear instructions for tapping into our deepest core and achieving true harmony through sexual intimacy. I feel that Deida has reached a new level of poetic genius in his writing, and his understanding of feminine psychology astounds me."
Miranda Shaw, PhD, Author of Passionate Enlightenment: Women in Tantric Buddhism

"David Deida's teachings on this central human concern, sexuality, emanate from a deeply trustworthy source. He has undergone his own rigorous training and practice, which manifests in precise, gentle, and thorough teachings. Many spiritual traditions, including Zen, have excluded or marginalized the sexual experience. David's work fills this gap, and gives us a mature approach for bringing the energetic, emotional, and physical experience of sex into our life and practice. And like Zen, the fruition of David's work is openness, compassion, and love."
Genpo Roshi, Author of The Eye Never Sleeps