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A friend recommended this. I have to say I was quite skeptical give the “title”. But this book helped me learn more about myself as a female from another perspective... it was interesting in a way! supported by evidence from studies in the lab and such an easy read that you can breeze through plus its funny as a bonus.
This may be slightly embarrassing to admit, but I found it very instructive about me... For example... I'm not a shopper (so that chapter wasn't fun) but the chapter on why women need other women as friends was fascinating! So was the chapter on conflict and how female brains work. The chapter on body image (and the actual numbers!) made me furious. But really-- can't the media just give it a rest? And can't we, as consumers, refuse to buy into their propaganda?Disclaimer: if you're like me, sk...
I love the Gottman's. I've trained with them. I am enamored by them. But this book? Basic and a bit silly. I was hoping for more. I suppose you could say this is geared/written for the average layman who knows nothing at all about women - it may actually work for that particular population. After all, the things that the Gottmans are writing about (along with two other scholars that are in much smaller print on the front cover), I found myself nodding my head and totally agreeing many times. One...
Yeah, I laughed when my mother recommended this book to me. It does sound pretty sleazy. But my mother probably has a stronger opinion about quality than I do. There had to be something here, or she wouldn't recommend it.Still, I waited until it was only a few bucks on Kindle.Right off, the authors waste no time telling you "the secret" of what women want, and I'll go ahead and spoil it: trustworthiness. Now that's a loaded word. I talked to a few of my woman friends about the book as I was read...
I knew most of the books content already because of being married. However, I like this advice the authors gave, when you (male) are in an argument take at least a 20 min break and do something meaningless to diffuse the flooded hormones. If more time is needed relay that to your wife, until you are in a peaceful state to talk about the situation.
I had hoped this book would be a good one for counseling couples preparing for marriage. I will stick with Gottman's Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work for that. But this could be the perfect book for a college age male. A good gift for a son.
one of the best i books have read about how to approach women to how really satisfy her in bedbut about the question of learning from the book what women really want i guess it will really disappoint you very much because there is no book in the world no matter who can really know what women really want even the great Freud stopped trying to find what women want.What Women Really Want is a question we men i think will never know
A must read to be the husband your wife needsI used to think my wife was negative because of her fears, anxieties, and insecurities. I now understand that almost all women are like her. I still find it frustrating but I love my wife enough to take the time to listen without interrupting and not to suggest solutions.Tom CunninghamNapoleon Hill Foundation Certified InstructorCreator of the Journeys To Success book seriesFounder of Journey To Success RadioInternational Inspirational Speaker
I give this book 5 stars for the relationship advice; it's well researched. I love well researched advice because it works! If you've read anything by the Gottmans, Sue Johnson, or have learned about attachment theory, the main premise of the book will be familiar to you: Turn towards your partner instead of away from them. This book is written for men and I'm curious about how well men feel it speaks to them. The authors tell men that they will have more sex and less fighting if they follow thi...
I probably should have read this years ago. I say this as a father of three, having gone through multiple relationships and a marriage. A quick read with practical tips that make sense to me, both in retrospect and going forward. The book is most focused on the traditional committed heterosexual relationship, but I believe could be read more generally. Summary: undivided attention and trustworthiness.
This book is truly dreadful. I got 50 pages in before deciding that it wasn’t useful even as a curiosity. The authors paint with broad brushstrokes and appear to believe that all men are fundamentally the same and all women are fundamentally the same, which is certainly not the case. How this book was published in 2016 (instead of 1970) is beyond me.In the first few pages, the authors frame couples’ issues as the following: women want more intimacy and support and men want less fighting and more...
One of the best books i read this year!! Simple language, good scientific information backed by researchers, and free of gimmicky tips and tricks. Its really simple guide (written for men heavily) on how to run a good relationship. highlighting the most common problems from a man prospective and how to solve it. I wish we encourage adding these kind of information on our Saudi education system. People get married really young in here with 0 knowledge about marriage life, leading to high rate of
When this book was added to our book swap pile, I picked it up with the sole intention of doing a hate read for it. The chapter titles were horrendous, and scanning the pages, the content looked completely ridiculous and patronizing. However, my Twitter thread quickly became more humor/satire and awkwardness than the hate read I had intended. This Man's Guide isn't all bad--there's quite a bit of good advice inside, regarding courting and sex, consent and communication. I will say that this book...
Should be mandatory reading in high school, would have saved me a lot of time. Touches all bases of relationship briefly, but deep enough to give you the right basics to build upon.
As the authors state throughout this one, this is not a book about picking up women, but a guide to creating a long-lasting, loving relationship. As corny as that may sound, the authors do a great job putting this guide together and presenting it to the reader in an approachable fashion.I found all of the advice here to be straightforward, sensical, and helpful. As problem solvers, many of us men try to figure out and solve our girlfriend’s / wive’s issues. On the whole, our women hate such an a...
thought-provoking!It provides some evolutionary explanations to certain heterosexual couples' behaviors. I found some of those explanations very well-argued and beautifully presented.
I'm a big fan of the Gottmans both as a clinician myself and as an individual invested in maintaining strong personal relationships. While this book is obviously geared toward men, I found it very validating to read as a woman. The Gottmans really know their stuff and know how to tailor it to their audience. The book is rich with findings from various studies that helps to buttress their central concepts but is also written in a language that is particularly clear and linear(hence why it is so p...
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The authors have years of experience in helping people in relationships and this shows with how easily they tackle serious issues that can occur when two people decide to enter into the great unknown of relationships. Loved the scientific explanations for what happens to people in relationships and the information about how our brains react to these things, as well as the research that was done into predictors for certain behaviors based on how you were raised. Book is geared toward men as the t...
This book. As a woman reading what a man considers women's wants to be, I had to admit that some of this is on point. I will say not all of it was great, but it was interesting to read about how one man (with a collection of scientific data) explains to the man who picked this up what to expect of women and how to understand them.One point I have to context: consent is always sexy, John Gottman. If a man wants to ask my permission to kiss me, that's sexy as hell. A few quote that resonated: "the...